Vulnerability is an inevitable part of the human condition. We try to pretend that we’re invulnerable at times because we want to appear tough. Well, that and no one likes to see adults cry. It’s weird and uncomfortable.
There are a LOT of things I don’t know. I’m sure some of what I don’t know can hurt me, too. I’ve seen videos of what goes on in Australia. There are massive spiders, dingoes that eat babies, and all sorts of terrifying things. I’m fairly confident that if I go to Australia, what I don’t know CAN hurt me.
However, I’m Barn in the USA, baby. What I don’t know can’t hurt me. I’m invulnerable.
I told my doctor that I broke my arm in two places – he told me to stop going to those places.
Well, that’s what I tell most people. Between you and me, I have my moments. I cry into my popcorn at the movies. I cry even harder when I stub my toe on the corner of the bed in the middle of the night. And if someone who I love suddenly doesn’t love me back, I’ll be in the fetal position for at least a few hours.
So what? That doesn’t make me any less human.
Should You Make Yourself Invulnerable?
There has been a lot of discussion about trying to make oneself invulnerable. That would make you a superhero or something, right? Well, even they face a few vulnerabilities.
Deadpool has his love for Vanessa (and Logan, if we’re being honest).
Superman is weakened by kryptonite.
The list goes on.
And we’re all subject to taxes.
That doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t try to at least make ourselves a bit tougher. Psychological defenses allow us to move through life relatively unscathed. That way, we don’t have a nervous breakdown at the grocery store when we hear someone whispering about us. And it’s why we are able to move on at some point after a relationship has ended.
If you cannot move forward because of simple things (and even a few tougher things), you should probably work on building up some more defenses. It won’t make you invulnerable, but it will save you on a few boxes of tissues, at the very least.
I’m Afraid of Being Vulnerable…
We all have the fear of being too vulnerable. It’s why I hate going to X-ray technicians. They can see right through me!
I like to have my alone time where I can be vulnerable without anyone seeing me. I can have some “me time” and cry about what’s going on. I can sit back and recount how my day went and think of ways that I could have been stronger.
This is a process that is very private. It’s not something I want to share with anyone else. You could consider it my Fortress of Solitude.
I’m sure you are afraid of being too vulnerable, too, which is why I recommend a barndo. It’s a pole building that can be constructed on your property for storage, a man cave, or simply screaming and shouting about your biggest fears. Hey, we’re not here to judge.
Of course, some people choose to have a barndo that’s big enough to live in. Get it? It’s like a condo, but it’s got more of a barn vibe than a rich building in the city kind of vibe. Plus, when you build a barndominium, you won’t have to worry about ridiculous monthly association fees that you absolutely would not be invulnerable to.
Our Bad Jokes About Vulnerability
I’m going to be honest here. I use comedy as a coping mechanism. When I am feeling a bit exposed and can’t seem to stomp my feelings down, I use jokes as a way to show everyone that I’m fine. Unscathed. Cool as a cucumber.
Try a few of these:
- What’s Forrest Gump’s email password? 1forrest1
- How do you make holy water? You boil the hell out of it.
- Why did the egg hide? It was a little chicken.
- What did the full glass say to the empty glass? You look drunk.
I don’t even care if you’re rolling your eyes right now.
If you’re feeling a little less than invulnerable one day, you may find yourself using one of these, too. Since I wouldn’t judge you for whipping out a dad joke, I don’t expect to be judged, either.
Feel Safe, in Every Way That Matters
“When we feel safe enough to expose our shadows, that’s when we become free.” — Gabby Bernstein
Expose your shadows. Let people know your vulnerabilities. Spend time in the world. When there’s less that you don’t know, there’s less that can hurt you. That way, you truly become free.
You won’t have to go through life being afraid of everything.
Feeling safe is of the utmost importance. You should feel safe everywhere, including your home. It’s not just you that should feel safe. You should work to make sure that everyone and everything is safe, too.
What would happen if your vehicle is left out in the cold winter air of Sherman Country? It’s not truly safe unless it’s inside of a garage. The same goes for tractors, ATVs, and any other toys you may have. You don’t want the metal to rust because things are being exposed to the elements. And there’s no telling what could fly (or walk or run) by your vehicles that could leave a dent or ding in them.
Your vehicles need a garage to feel safe. And we need a home to feel safe in, whether that’s a traditionally built home or a barndo.
At Sherman Pole Buildings, we’re here to make you feel safe. Now that we’ve exposed some of our shadows, it’s time for you to do the same. While we’re not licensed mental health counselors, we are quality erection builders. The best part is that we’re ‘Barn in the USA’. When you want to support ‘Merica, just let us do the building for you.
