People are judgmental without even realizing it. Before you know it, they’re squinting at you, shaking their heads, and thinking who knows what about you. I get it. I can tell people are judgmental just by looking at them.
It’s a lot easier to go through life when people silently judge you. When they start judging you out loud, that’s when you’re in real trouble.
It was once said that “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
People tell me I’m condescending. That means I talk down to people.
There’s no reason to judge people. What you think about someone is not going to change who they are or what they do. In fact, most people really don’t give a damn what you think of them.
Earl Nightingale hit the nail on the head when he said, “When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.”
Let that sink in. Have you ever watched someone at a coffee shop, at the grocery store, or even at work and judged them in silence? Hmmm. What does that say about your character? That kind of introspection can be dangerous, so don’t think too long or hard about it.
We Magnify Flaws
Throughout Sherman Country, we interact with a lot of people. We see them on the road, in the stores, and even work with them to build a barndominium for them.
Being judgmental sort of happens. However, we often magnify the flaws in others that we secretly see in ourselves. That’s the really scary part about it.
Always hold your head up, but be careful to keep your nose at a friendly level.
Have we seen someone who talks incessantly to strangers and thought, “Oh. My. God. Just shut up already?” Well, it likely means that you’ve been in a similar situation. And someone behind you was probably wishing that you would shut up.
Those kinds of situations happen more than we even realize. We see someone and instantly judge them. And we know that they’re judging us, too, because it’s human nature.
Bet you didn’t think you’d be experiencing Psychology 101 with this blog post, did you?
Seriously, though. Being judgmental is something that happens. If you’re doing it too often, it may be a bit of a character flaw. The good news is that there are ways to figure out if you’re a bit too judgy so you can get a handle on it.
I’ll Be the Judge of That…
You’ve been told you’re judgy…or you’re judging someone the moment that they enter your radar. You can’t help it. The judging comes so naturally. We get it. But here is a list of 10 signs that you’re being a bit too much.
- You skip right to conclusions
- You can’t see past a person’s flaws
- You expect consistency out of everyone
- You’re intolerant of those who are unlike you
- You’re a pessimist about most things
- You struggle to see the beauty in life
- You have low self-worth
- You’re suspicious of people
- You feel anxious around new people
- Your inner circle of friends/peers are always judging you
Yikes. Did any of that hit a bit too close to home? That’s okay. Knowing is half the battle, so you can decide to stop judging everyone you meet in Sherman Country.
Open Your Mind
It’s time to open your mind before you open your mouth. If you’re going to stop being judgmental, it starts by not sharing every thought that pops into your head. Contrary to what you may have been raised to believe, it is not your place to judge everyone you meet.
Often, we’re judgmental and critical because it’s the way that we were raised. We heard our parents making snide comments about people, so we did the same.
Ask yourself why you think you are choosing to judge someone. Pause to determine what is triggering such thoughts. Then, stop to explore why someone may be behaving the way that they are.
Take a few deep cleansing breaths and remember that everyone is different. While they may be doing things differently than you would, it doesn’t make them weird or wrong.
As you develop more self-awareness of your thoughts, you can stop being so judgy. In the end, you may even develop some more empathy toward others and society as a whole.
Grace is Never the Wrong Choice
Ultimately, we cannot be judgmental because we don’t know what’s going on in other people’s lives. We’re not ones to cast stones. As such, we should show kindness to everyone, even if we don’t think that they deserve us.
By showing grace, we cannot go wrong.
Want to know another thing that you can do that will never be the wrong choice? Build a barndominium in Sherman Country. You might be surprised by how a pole barn can be built and transformed into a beautiful home. Whether you are searching for a design that is rustic, minimalistic, or modern, we have you covered at Sherman Pole Buildings.
No one will ever judge you for building a pole barn, especially when they see that it is constructed by us. With the metal frame, it is capable of withstanding all of the elements. It can be built quickly, affordably, and to the custom specifications that you provide.
Even if someone does start to get judgmental about your choice, show them some grace. They don’t know. And you can educate them by giving them a tour. You may end up getting an apology out of them once they see how incredible the interior can be.
When you’re ready to make the best choice of your life, contact us. We won’t judge you when you walk in the door. And we certainly won’t judge you about any of the customizations you want. By the time we’re done, you’ll have a beautiful building that you can call home. And if you decide to be judgmental of society while you’re inside, we won’t say a word.